Mr Man: My wife and I can’t manage without our live in nanny. What do you do for daycare?
Naive me: No daycare. We chose not to go that route.
Mr.Man: Oh, I get it! You’re a “Supermom” How’s that working out for you (laugh, laugh)
Simple chat right. No big deal right! Except for the disdain this person showed and the labelling of “supermom” which was a negative, not a positive reference, trust me!
I have frequently been called competitive in my life… been harassed for it, in fact, and have continually denied it… and thus lost friends, respect and trust from other women. In my haste to explain, before you stop reading…..
I view competitive people as those who continually compare themselves to the abilities and achievements of another person, and look to “out-do” said person.
I love you all, but I truly don’t give a shit about how your successes compare to mine. Your success is your success…. You own it. It was on your path! And I will support you to the ends of the earth as you go and achieve it!
I think competitive people are the ones who are always “one-upping “you, whether it is good or bad … ie: I hardly had any sleep last night…… (Friend replies: you think you didn’t get any sleep… you should have been in our house)
I think it is done from a lack of confidence, and a lack of direction. I don’t think it is healthy, for anyone involved.
I sat down with the amazing Kate Muker (conscious diva’s) the other day. Not only is Kate beautiful and clever (and petite, which is one of the main things I covet in this life… oh to be petite) but she believes firmly and strongly in being our best self, and helping those around us to be their best self.
I haven’t chosen to keep my loud and somewhat miserable 2 year old at home to piss you off or to make you feel bad. Are you crazy…. What psycho would do that? Seriously? Nor am I supermom, as I have mentioned before. I am also not overly lucky, and in any way special beyond the norm…. but I do know what I want and am willing to work my A%* off and throw my hat into the ring to get it.
The choices I have made in my life are for me alone. I want to be the best “me” possible. I want to ensure our family is living OUR best life. I don’t care for trophies or grades. I want to ensure I am pushing myself to my max…. MY max… not yours, or anyone else’s.
I believe we should all have mentors and goals, and aspire to grow and change. We should follow our path, our passions and our strengths…. And stop worrying about what everyone else is doing! Let’s get rid of the jealousy and bitterness this year. Let’s not worry about how people around us are “managing” and stop comparing…. we are all good enough if we are our best selves!
Let’s use our “powers” for good!
This article is a re-post from Julie Nowell, written and shared via another site in January 2012.